𝑾𝒉𝒐 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒉𝒓𝒂𝒎?

~ 𝐌 𝐀 𝐇 𝐑 𝐀 𝐌 𝐒 ~


𝑾𝒉𝒐 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒉𝒓𝒂𝒎?
𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒊𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒂𝒎 𝒐𝒓 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒉𝒊𝒃𝒊𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐, 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒍𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒉𝒓𝒂𝒎.

You are permitted to have any type of communication with your mahrams.
Women can adorn herself without her hijab, ONLY infront of her mahrams.
There's no limitations for touching or hugging but modesty is a part of Imaan. Thus anything lustful is haram with anyone except your spouses.

Awrah for mahrams;
Everything between the chest and knee.

Categories.

1. Mahrams by blood ties.
2. Mahrams by breastfeeding.
3. Mahrams by marriage.
4. Temporary prohibition of Nikah.
5. Non mahrams or ajnabi.
6. Halal.

(In a woman's point of view)

1. Mahrams by blood ties.

• Father, father's father, mother's father and all forefathers.
• Brothers, siblings' sons and so on.
• Father's brother / paternal uncle.
• Mother's brother / maternal uncle.
• Sons, their sons and so on. (Grandsons)

It is no sin on them before their fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their brother's sons, or the sons of their sisters, or their own (believing) women, or their (female) slaves. And (O ladies) have Taqwa of Allah. Verily, Allah is Ever All-Witness over everything.)
( Al Qur'an 33:55)

2. Mahrams by breastfeeding. (Fosters)

• Foster / breast fed mother's husband (similar to own father) and their forefathers.
• Foster mother's sons, her children's sons and so on.
• Foster mother's brother.
• Foster father's brother.

3. Mahram by marriage.

The following will remain mahram permanently even though we part by divorce, death or annulment of Nikah contract.

• Husband's father, his father and forefathers.
• Mother's husband
• Mother's sons, her children's sons and so on.
• Husband's sons, his children's sons and so on.
• Daughter's husband, his sons, his children's sons and so on.

4. Temporary prohibition to marry.

The following categories of women are prohibited for men to marry temporarily based on marriages.

• Wife's sister and her aunt.

If a man parts with his wife by a divorce, death or annulment of Nikah contract, he is allowed to marry his wife's sister or aunt.

"Forbidden to you (for marriage) are; your mothers... and two sisters at the same time."
(An nisa 4:23)

Dear sisters, note that although your sister's husband can't marry you, he doesn't become your mahram. The same rulings of non mahrams apply here too. A woman should fear her brother in law, similar to death.

• Another man's wife.

A man cannot marry another man's wife as long as she hasn't parted from her husband by a divorce, death or annulment of Nikah contract.

There's no one that's temporarily unable to marry for a woman. She can marry any of her non mahrams, one at a time

5. Non mahrams - Ajnabi

Everyone else that is not mentioned in any of the above categories is a non mahram.
It includes the following too (in a woman's point of view)
• Cousin brothers (parents siblings' sons), their sons and so on
• All cousin's sons and so on.
• Aunt's husband, their brothers, sisters' husbands and forefathers.

We are totally prohibited to have ANY form of communication or contact with non mahrams unnecessarily, including touching or shaking hands. Women should completely cover herself, her adornment and abide to the hijab in the presence of non mahrams.
We can choose among this category, a suitable partner to marry and live halal.

Awrah for non mahrams;
- Complete body except that which is allowed to show for women. Complete hijab.
- The area between the naval and knee for men.

6. Halal.

Your spouse, which you legally completed the nikah contract with, is halal for you.
You are permitted to approach your spouse in any desired way. There's no limitations of awrah or communication.

"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze, and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over their Juyub and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their women, or their right hand possessions, or the Tabi`in among men who do not have desire, or children who are not aware of the nakedness of women. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.)"
(Al Qur'an 24:31)

"Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your foster mothers who suckled you, your foster milk suckling sisters, your wives' mothers, your stepdaughters under your guardianship, born of your wives unto whom you have gone in -- but there is no sin on you if you have not gone in unto them (to marry their daughters), -- the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins, and two sisters in wedlock at the same time, except for what has already passed; verily, Allah is Oft- Forgiving, Most Merciful.)"
(Al Qur'an 4:23)

May Allah protect us from Zinah and bless us happiness only in the halal pure way.

Written by – Minha Zarook ❤

What does it mean to be a husband?

Becoming a husband will change your life– for the better, of course! The very special relationship between spouses is a wonderful and humbling experience: your wife is the person that you have chosen to spend and share your life with, through all its ups and downs. When things go well, she is there to celebrate with you; when things go wrong, she gives comfort and support. She does not judge you on your failures and is all too often working behind the scenes to ensure that your life together runs smoothly.

The bond shared by a husband and wife is best summed up as follows:
“They are your garments and you are their garments.”
[Al-Baqarah 2:187]

So, what does it mean to be a husband? How should a husband behave and how should he treat his wife? The Quran shows us the standards expected from an ideal Muslim husband, the most important of which are summarised below.

In Islamic custom, men are regarded as “guardians” of the family. Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) has made them stronger and they are expected to expend of their means to provide for the family. This does not mean that they are superior to women; rather they are expected to act as protectors and providers.

“Men are protectors and maintainers of women.”
[An-Nisa 4:34]

GOOD CANDIDATE FOR MARRIAGE

Everyone seems like a good candidate for marriage. Like literally everyone who mildly takes care of themselves and shows some outward manifestation of their deen.

But listen.

Everyone has baggage. You can’t escape it. There aren’t perfect marriages. But they can be really close to perfect. More importantly, marriage should make you happy more than it makes you sad.

So, here are a few pieces of advice:

Take your time. He/she is coming. Do not settle.
Make sure to see if your personalities and goals are compatible. Islam’s process of marriage literally weeds out people you won’t gel with. It’s designed to make sure no one has to compromise on the basis of love. You both can have your lifestyles first and agree to it together and then fall in love. It’s much less sticky that way.

Make your intention for the sake of Allaah and keep it strictly halaal. No extra chatty-ness or flirting.

Feel a spark! Some excitement for the person you’re interested in is always a good sign.
And most importantly,

"DO NOT GET ATTACHED"

Do not get attached until your nikkah contract has been signed. Do not let your heart suffer if this person isn’t the one for you. Wait until it’s absolutely confirmed, and then let yourself fall in love with he/she, and go all out! :)

May Allaah give you all pious spouses and make things easy. Ameen.

WHY DON'T YOU MARRY? Part1/2

Why don't you want to marry?

Part 1/2

One of the greatest issues I see in today's society is the status of the youth. The youth of today are all spoonfed and they lack the ability to bear responsibility for the smallest things in life. It's true that we should learn from the advices from our elders but at the same time we should be wise enough to make our own decisions as caretakers of the future.
One of the problems we face due to this quality is 'delaying and denying marriage'.
However denial of marriage is comparatively less than delaying of marriage in the Muslim community.
Let's see some of the reasons that most of the youngsters complain to their delay or denial of marriage.
I've tried to rank those reasons based on the responses of the youngsters in my circle and my previous survey in the 'Nikah Marriage' page.
They are as below;

1. Economy
2. Responsibility
3. Education
4. Family
5. Freedom
6. Intimacy
7. Unrealistic expectations
8. Availability of Zinah
9. Influence of the ignorant and kafir.
10. Dowry

1. Economy.

Whenever the topic of marriage is spoken, the youngsters' first complain is their economical instability. 'We don't earn enough to feed a new person, we are hardly spending on ourselves, how can I accommodate a new change etc...?
My question is, when both two people were living in their own houses have either one of them starved to death? We know some people who are in relationships since a long time, during this period, both are living in their own houses, haven't they got enough money to spend on themselves separately?
It's true that it's the husband's duty to spend on his wife but if you are delaying marriage till you get stable, can't you marry and get some help from your parents until you get stable? It will save you from Zinah.
Do you think Allah will take 'unstable economy' as an excuse for the Zinah you are committing?
Moreover, what is the guarantee that you won't loose your job after you marry? Or loose all your savings on bankruptcy, theft or health issues? The more I think about it, the more scarier it gets.
I believe this is a lame reason to delay marriage. Because Allah has promised that He will increase your baraqah with nikah and children. What more do you want more than a promise from your creator?

Which of the favours of your lord would you deny?
(55:13)

Whoever complains their financial status for delaying marriage, don't trust in the powers of Allah isy view. Allah is the provider, even if you marry or not, you will NEVER starve to death. You just might not have enough money to fulfill your extravagant needs, but it's not impossible to maintain a beautiful family with minimal wages.
Because it's the almighty Allah, Ar-Razzak, the provider who is going to provide you each grain of rice and and as he has promised he will definitely increase your wealth after a halal Nikah. You just have to marry!
If you are wise when you spend, you can lead a content life. If your expenses were more than your income, you won't be happy or content even if you become the richest man on Earth.
Dear sisters, be mindful about your expenses. Women are commonly known for spending lavishly. Don't be the stereotypical materialistic woman. A wise woman and a good wife will think about all the torments her husband and father went through before she spends even a Rupee of what he earned.

2. Responsibility

The second most said reason is 'Responsibility'. This is becoming a crisis in today's youth society. The current youngsters are all spoonfed and thus lack the ability to bear responsibility and decision making. How long are you going to depend on your parents? When are you going to grow up and take responsibility for your lives? We can never be perfect in a task, without even trying to do it. When a child is born, it latches to its mother's breasts and drinks milk to fulfill its need, but it has been only swimming in its amniotic sack filled with fluid. Was it practicing how to suck? Did it wait for the right time to start drinking? It just started drinking when it started feeling hungry, didn't it? That's because Allah gave that child the knowledge to latch on to gain it's rizq, when it's right time.
Have you seen the birth of a baby goat? Have you noticed that it starts to walk few minutes after it's born? Allah gave that knowledge for it on the right time.
There are lots of such examples right under our noses but we deny to see.
Don't fear your future if you have done your best today. Allah has asked you to marry when you feel the need for it, then do it now, it is Allah who is going to take care of the rest, giving you the necessary knowledge about it.
Moreover, there are endless ways to gain knowledge about married life, go for pre-marriage counselling sessions, learn from the beautiful examples of the prophet Muhammad pbuh and his companions, read wholesome books etc...and take a brave step ahead.
Keep your trust in Allah and start the sunnah, what has to come will definitely come to you.

3. Education

Some of us delay marriage until we complete our education. The reason we usually say is that after marriage we get distracted and can't focus on studies due to new responsibilities, but haven't we seen so many people studying after marriage and even while having children? Have the ones who are in relationships failed in their exams? Have they lost focus?
No. They've succeeded in their education simultaneously with their affairs. Similarly I'm saying, do the same thing in the halal way.
Try to understand that a good spouse will always encourage eachother to perceive their dreams and support eachother to succeed. Just imagine having someone right beside you who would help you with your late night studies and revisions. It's going to be a beautiful journey to share with. You can build up your future together as a team.
Sometimes you might even fear that 'what if we didn't get a supportive wife?' well that can happen even if you marry after completing your studies. What if your spouse don't support your career then, are you going to not marry at all thinking about the consequences of future. So as I always say, don't think of "what if"s, anything can happen, the possibilities are endless, just make sure you do it right now in this moment.

to be continued...

- Minha Zarook

WHY DON'T YOU MARRY? Part 2/2

~ YOUTH VS MARRIAGE ~

Why don't you want to marry?

Part 2/2

4. Family

Some youngster are unable to marry due to various conditions applied by their parents. Some parents tell that their children should marry a financially stable person only, some say that their children are too young to marry, they think their kids still don't know responsibilities, some parents are too choosy based on their social status, some parents give in to their egos and don't support their children's decision, some are even jealous as to not let their children let them go away from them and eventually don't get a good match who would agree for all these conditions. Finally, when it's too late, and when their children are getting old, they give their children in marriage to the next person who comes asking for a spouse, without even seeing if they match or like eachother. Some such marriages only end up in tragic, meaningless divorces.
Islam says to marry when we get the physical need for a life partner. If parents have been an obstacle, some children will try to fulfill their catnal desires in other available ways. From here on parents are also part of the sins the children do in the name of friendship or friends with benefits. They are also responsible for the sins and Zinah your children commit.
So dear parents, let go of your ego, unreasonable conditions and please give your children in marriage when they feel the need for it. I don't have to explain further of the need, you've passed that age of youth, you would know very well. Now you might wonder that if you can wait to marry until you get old, why can't your children be patient. Back in your days, this situation was different, the youngsters now have extremely easy access to Zinah, and other filthy acts. So mindful about this grave sin that you are also accountable for.

5. Freedom

This reason is brought out mostly by women. Sisters say that they feel like they'll loose their freedom after marriage.
May I first ask, what do you mean by freedom? Is it going out where ever you need, with whoever you need, whenever you need at any time of the day, wear anything you need, associate anyone you need?
Well dear sisters, this is not called freedom, it's called disobedience to the almighty Allah. If your father has let you do all that, I'll tell you my dear, he has failed being a father. He's a Dayyooth, a shameless man who cannot correct and protect his womenfolk.
Islam doesn't oppress women in any way but it has layed some ground rules solely for the safety and betterment of the woman herself. She is free to do anymore being under this regulations.
If you want to go out, go out with a mahram. After marriage your guardian is right beside you to go wherever you need, whenever you need. If you need to work, choose a place where there is no free mixing, following the hijab, you should first be obedient to Allah despite being married or not.

The brothers who complain for loosing freedom if married, I ask the same question. What is freedom in your point of view?
Going out whenever you need, hanging out with friends until as late as you need, watching the game, the whole day like a couch potato, talking and flirting with any girl you wish to?
If you need to roam around with your friends, or watch the game all day long, what's the purpose of your existence? What's the goal of your life? Is it idoling, wasting time and being meaningless that you call freedom? You are only being useless, not enjoying your freedom. You can still do all that while married, with limitations, which is good for your self esteem. What you call is not freedom, what marriage brings is a place to please yourself while being a more organized person.
Well if you say that's how you relax, a good wife knows how to make her husband relax. She'll even give a complete spa treatment to make you relax.
If you still say that you are losing your freedom of talking to other women, my brother it is haram regardless, only the reward for your sin is more if you do Zinah while married.

6. Intimacy

This is something that I mostly hear from sisters personally. They say that they fear the intimacy if it would be painful, if he's the right person to give herself to, is it a must to do on the first night etc...

There's no celibacy in Islam.

Our prophet Muhammad pbuh said that because man is created in such a way. Islam encourages intimacy but prohibits celibacy and extra marital relationships. It's your right as well as your husband's right. Don't worry much about how it might make you feel and I've mentioned in one of my previous article "CONFLICTS 1/3”, give his right. All I can say he sisters is go with the flow, make sure you recite the duaa before the act and enjoy your moment that Allah has blessed you with.
Honestly, I'm not aware of the point of view of the brothers regarding this issue but as I've mentioned in the aforementioned article, be gentle on her always and satisfy her needs. And remember that it's not compulsory to do the act on their first night.

7. Unrealistic expectations.

One of the common problems in marriage is that both brothers and sisters have unrealistic expectations when they look for a match for themselves.
They have high beauty standards, social statuses, wealth, educational and qualifications, expensive dowry and mahar, etc...
A pretty face and flat stomach is not going to help you when you have a mental breakdown or post partum depression.
Wealth and health can disappear in no time, what to have to look for in a spouse is beautifully mentioned qualities in the sunnah.
You should always keep your trust in Allah and select your best match as a spouse with isthikhara.

8. Availability of Zinah.

Another reason the youngsters are reluctant to make a firm decision is because they can satisfy their needs in various easily available ways. They don't have to be tied down or commited to one person or be responsible for eachother for the rest of their lives.
If they marry they'll have to give up on their daily flings and easy going policy. All I can say is, fear Allah and save yourself from this addiction called Zinah. Indeed earth is not for pleasure. It's a prison for Muslims. You can enjoy your time on Earth while following the instructions given in the teachings of Islam in order to prepare ourselves for the hereafter. So obviously it's going to be difficult to control your needs but remember Allah has given you lots of halal options.

Moreover marriage is not only for physical intimacy. We marry to complete half of our Deen, to complete eachother, to fulfill a sunnah of our prophet Muhammad pbuh, to expand the ummah and more importantly to have and to hold on to someone, for your entire life, till death, while every other relationships must eventually part from us at some point of life.

9. Influence of the ignorant and kafir.

Living together and sexuality is becoming a trend nowadays. Islam prohibits extramarital affairs and homosexuality. It's completely HARAM. Is it so difficult to simply sign a Nikah contract with whatever affordable mahr, if you can live together without any problem? Simply do the nikah and live the same life in a halal way.

10. Dowry

Some sisters are still living with their parents because they don't have enough wealth to pay for the dowry demanding beggars who come in the name of a groom.
Brothers, it's HARAM. Don't fall into this cheap category by begging an innocent family for dowry they are unable to arrange for their precious daughter, causing them unbearable financial and mental breakdowns over earning Allah'a wrath.
In the same way, sisters, put down your demands for mahr. Anything that is minimal is always happy.

Finally dear sisters and brothers, keep your complete trust in Allah, look for your best match based on the sunnah of islam and marry your beloved spouse. Take that brave step ahead.
Whatever happens after that is in Allah's hands, still if you feel like you need time, do the nikah and live separately with your own parents.

Make Allah bless us with the best spouse and a peaceful life ahead.

– Minha Zarook Article

"THE PIOUS WIFE"

Marriage to her is one half of the deen,

The benefit Allah has put in her is yet to be seen.

She wears her hijab for her Lord, to please and obey,

She turns to Allah for salaah at least five times each day.

She prays in the night and makes sure to awake you,

And sprinkles you with water if sleep should overtake you.

She protects her chastity with firmness because she does not desire,

To displease Allah and end up in the tormenting fire.

She asks the people who know when matters need to be rectified,

She is not blinded by self righteousness and foolish pride.

She is humble and kind to her husband as Allah has commanded,

Never leaving him alone, isolated, nor stranded.

She opens her mouth only to say what is best,

Not questioning her husband when he makes a request.

She takes care of herself and never ceases to try, to beautify herself so to please his eye.

She is a pleasure Allah has given to us in this life.

Be thankful to Allaah alone for His blessing.

– Abu Jameela

WHAT DUA DID #ALLAH CHOOSE FOR US TO MAKE IN EVERY SALAAH

What du'a did Allāh choose for us to make in every Salah/Namaz? Do we say, ‘O Allah, give me a wife!’ 'Grant me 2 boys and 2 girls!’? O Allāh, make me a millionaire!’ 'O Allah, protect me from the haters!’?

Allah chose us to recite Fatiha and taught us to say, 'Guide us on the straight path!’ - Why this du'a? Because the one who is guided realises that if they have no spouse, no honeymoon, no kids, and no Bentley then they have Allah and He is enough. There is no wealth and treasure greater than guidance. And the one who has guidance fears no one in creation because Allāh is their Protector and Guardian.

– Shaykh Mohammad Aslam

♡ My beautiful sisters ♡

 ㋛ Don't judge easily, don't slander, The girl who only depend on ALLAH, The girl who only walks in the straight path, The girl who only waiting for ALLAH'S plans In her life, The girl who waiting for HALAL marriage plz kindly don't connect any such Takwah girl with any boy, without knowing any proper details, that will hurt her so much deep,then ALLAH is there to watch everything May ALLAH save us from all bad things & May ALLAH grant us peace Amin...♡♡ 

#Nikkah_In_Islam

Why does Man Need a Wife?

People will see a man washing and instead of appreciating, they will say - “Ahhh, go go, marry soon, so you don't have to wash your clothes.” They will see a man cooking & be like -“Yooo Bro, get a wife soon, she will cook for you.”
Even a mother will see her 30 years old son who cannot take his plate to the kitchen after eating, who cannot boil water for tea or even make his own bed and tell him - “Son you need to settle down. You need a woman to take care of you.” Like Seriously?
In different ways the so called society tells man that they won't marry a woman for any reason other than cleaning, cooking, care taking and childbearing because men doing this stuffs is against masculinity! Sometimes I wonder, does the average man need a wife as 'Life Partner' or they just want a 'Glorified Maid'?
Often time woman looks 3 times their age because of the stress and exhaustion whereas husbands remains young & they sit down in front of the TV and watch the tragic show of his wife's work work work until she is about to pass out. Instead of appreciating wife hard work, some just complain each time that why food is so salty, why it's not cold, yuckkk your cooking, as if he can cook better than her! So sad! Really so sad!
Brothers who told you that it's wrong to wash your own plate and clean your own clothes? What will it take to help your wife? What will it take to appreciate your wife a little?
Imam Al-Bukhari reported that al Aswad said: “I asked Aisha (RA) what the Prophet (SAW) used to do in His house? She replied: “He used to serve his wives, and when the time for prayer came He used to go out for the prayer.”
Wallahi brothers, The Nabi of the Muslim Jahan, Rasulullah (SAW) cooked, sewed, cleaned, took the trash out, The Best Man Who ever walk on the earth, if He (SAW) could help His Wives then why not you?
Brothers, Please don't neglect an act of Sunnah every single day just to prove your manhood! Manliness doesn't come from having 6 packs, big muscles or arrogance, but from kindness & generosity. Manliness of a man lies in the smile of his wife.
“The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” [Hadith Al-Tirmidhi]
May Allah SWT bless all our marriage. Ameen

Marriage is a lifetime contract for living together. How will this journey be?

Its depends on both husband and wife behavior, their efforts, hard work, sincerity and mutual understanding.

For spending successful life, a continuous efforts is needed.

Successful married life can't be possible with in a weak or in a month, Its a full time job... Our efforts, love and care makes our life successful and full of happiness...

As love is just a word but husband and wife both give meaning to their love, similarly nikah is a contract but husband and wife makes this contract successful with their love, care, sincerity and respect.

Our attitude and behavior are special ingredient to any successful relationship, with our good attitude people comes near to us, and with our arrogant and bad attitude people go far away from us...

Many sisters complain that their husband's behavior is very rude to them. They behave immorally or sometime they says that they are very cruel to them.
Similarly sometimes these complain comes from husbands for their wives.
Is it really impossible to handle such behavior?

Is it really difficult to change someone?

I will try to explain this with symbolic story.

Once a daughter told her mother that her husband is very cruel to her, its too difficult to handle him.. So tell me what should I do ? Or give me some solution. Her mother told her that she has a solution.. She said that I have an amulet but I need lion's hair.. When girl heard this then she became afraid that how can she get this?
Her mother told her that its not impossible, you can get lions hair by making him friend..
Her mother told her that if you give food to lion daily then lion will get familiar to you, and when lion will get familiar then you can take its hair... She went to a forest and their she saw a lion then she started giving him food daily. As days passed on, she started giving food by going more close...
After some days lion became her friend and then she took several hair from his body.. Then she went to her mother and said, I have got the lion's hair as you said, Now tell me what should I do now ?

Her mother smilied and says ,Oh my beloved daughter, just see How a lion changed with your love care and proper attention, when a fierce animal can change with love, care and proper attention ,then how is that possible a human cannot be?

So dear brothers and sisters try to focus on your attitude instead of problems. Try to change your behavior first..instead of expecting it from other, then you will eventually see a good change in ur partners behavior too...

Marriage is a gift from Allah don't waste it by your arrogant behavio... Be polite to each other.... Just forgive ,forget and move on...

Who is the Best Woman?

Who is the Best Woman?

👉17. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said ; If women comply with your commands, do not molest them listen carefully, they have a right over you that you take care of their food and wear." 👇

📚Ibn-e-Majh, Vol. 1, p 519 📚

👉34. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,The woman whose husband remains happy at night, and every night, she will be admitted into paradise.❤️

📚Tirmidhi, Vol. 1, p 4 28)📚

👉31. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said ; declared from the pulpit at Hajj, a wife must not spend anything belonging to her husband without his permission, and this prohibition equally applied to buying foodstuff.❤️👏

📚TirmidhiVol. 1, p 265📚

Who is a MAN?

Who is a MAN?

A man is a beautiful part of God's creation who starts compromising at a very tender age.

He sacrifices his chocolates for his sister.

He sacrifices his dreams for just a smile on his parents face.

He spends his entire pocket money on buying gifts for the lady he loves just to see her smiling.

He sacrifices his full youth for his wife & children by working late at night without any complain.

He builds their future by taking loans from banks & repaying them for lifetime.

He struggles a lot & still has to bear scolding from his mother, wife & boss.

His life finally ends up only by compromising for others' happiness.

If he goes out, then he's careless

If he stays at home, then he's a lazy

If he scolds children, then he's a monster

If he doesn't scold, then he's a irresponsible guy

If he stops wife from working, then he's an insecure guy

If he doesn't stops wife from working, then he's somebody who lives on wife's earnings.

If he listens to mom, then he's mama's boy

If he listens to wife, he's wife's slave

Respect every male in your life. U will never know what he has sacrificed for you.

Tag your Husband,Father and Brothers Make them feel proud.

-----🍂100 MARRIAGE SECRETS 🍂-----

-----🍂100 MARRIAGE SECRETS 🍂-----


🗝Secret 1❣

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only Allah does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his/her strength.

🗝Secret 2❣

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

🗝Secret 3❣

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

🗝Secret 4❣

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

🗝Secret 5❣

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage.

Some 💔enemies of marriage are:

⚠️Ignorance
⚠️Prayerlessness
⚠️Unforgiveness
⚠️Third party influence
⚠️Stinginess
⚠️Stubbornness
⚠️Lack of love
⚠️Rudeness
⚠️Laziness
⚠️Disrespect
⚠️Cheating
Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

🗝Secret 6❣

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

🗝Secret 7❣

Allah doesn't give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

🗝Secret 8❣

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. A husband can lose his good job or a wife may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

🗝Secret 9❣

Marriage is a contract. It is meant to be life long. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. Allah dislikes divorce.

🗝Secret 10❣

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

🗝Secret 11-100❣❣❣
Put ALLAH azza wa jal as the center of all ibadah,love and all that were mentioned in Secrets 1-10.

🔑So today let us pray for our marriages and ask Allah to help us where we are lacking in the marriage. Send to those you care about because you never know who you may be helping. May Allah bless us all.ameen

♦️Show Her Gratitude And Acknowledge The Hard Work She Does ♦️

♦️Show Her Gratitude And Acknowledge The Hard Work She Does ♦️

By showing your wife gratitude and acknowledging her hard work, you will make her feel a sense of accomplishment and this will help keep her motivated to do the hard work she does.

It also means that if you are grateful to your wife then you are grateful to Allah ﷻ for blessing you with her company because it was Allah ﷻ that gave you the opportunity to unite together in marriage.

Thank your wife very often and tell her that you appreciate all her work and effort and say Alhamdulillah for her companionship.

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷻ said :

“Whoever is not grateful to the people, he is not grateful to Allah ﷻ.”

[Tirmidhi (Sahih)]

Allah ﷻ also states in the Quran:

“If you are grateful I will increase you”
[Quran 14:7]

This verse is not limited to being only grateful to Allah ﷻ but can also apply to being grateful towards our loved ones.

#Nikkah_In_ Islam 🤍

Why Having Sex Is Good?

Sex is an activity design by Allah Married partners...Sex has many spiritual health & personal benefits...from the Islamic view point sex is only for Married (Halal) & it becomes sinful for the Unmarried here why having sex regularly is good for us

❤️Sex is Ibadah
When a Muslim have sexual intercourse with his/ her partner they are engaging in a special form of ibadah...and we get reward Everytime we engage in sexual activities

❤️Sex is Sadaqa
It comes in many Hadith that sex with your partner is a form of Sadaqa one is rewarded just as someone who spends on charity...So form now when your spouse Invite you for sex do not waste time

❤️Sex Relieve Stress
Scientist have proven that having sex can help you reduce stress... when you ejaculate it takes out all the stress in your brain & other body parts.. Perhaps the study shows that you need to maintain at least 5 to 10 minutes in the activity

❤️Sex eases Depression
A study on people having depression shows that their depression declained after having sexual relationship specially when a lot of positions were tried & change from Time after Time

❤️Sex Helps burn Calories
A study shows that an average 5 minutes sex activity can help burn 220 Calories...so if you want to burn some calories without practically doing exercise you can have a 5 to Minutes sex... this helps people with heart problem to do some cardio

❤️Sex Rekindles love & partners
Some of the best ways to reduce marital crisis & problems in marriage is having regularly sex..how ever by sex I don't mean 2 minutes sex without love sex..Sex is different from love making..As Muslims we are encouraged to make love while having Sex.it is via love making that both partners get motivated

❤️Sex can be a form of Jihad
When you are tired & you cannot satisfy your partner but then you struggle for the sake Of Allah SWT and do it anyway in order to please your partner.. this is considered a form of Jihad because you are Striving to make someone Happy..and making people form of Jihad because you are Striving to making someone happy..& Making people happy is jihad fisabilillah❤️❤️