Everyone seems like a good candidate for marriage. Like literally everyone who mildly takes care of themselves and shows some outward manifestation of their deen.
But listen.
Everyone has baggage. You can’t escape it. There aren’t perfect marriages. But they can be really close to perfect. More importantly, marriage should make you happy more than it makes you sad.
So, here are a few pieces of advice:
Take your time. He/she is coming. Do not settle.
Make sure to see if your personalities and goals are compatible. Islam’s process of marriage literally weeds out people you won’t gel with. It’s designed to make sure no one has to compromise on the basis of love. You both can have your lifestyles first and agree to it together and then fall in love. It’s much less sticky that way.
Make sure to see if your personalities and goals are compatible. Islam’s process of marriage literally weeds out people you won’t gel with. It’s designed to make sure no one has to compromise on the basis of love. You both can have your lifestyles first and agree to it together and then fall in love. It’s much less sticky that way.
Make your intention for the sake of Allaah and keep it strictly halaal. No extra chatty-ness or flirting.
Feel a spark! Some excitement for the person you’re interested in is always a good sign.
And most importantly,
And most importantly,
"DO NOT GET ATTACHED"
Do not get attached until your nikkah contract has been signed. Do not let your heart suffer if this person isn’t the one for you. Wait until it’s absolutely confirmed, and then let yourself fall in love with he/she, and go all out! 
May Allaah give you all pious spouses and make things easy. Ameen.
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