It’s Sunnah to marry older women.

1. It’s Sunnah to marry older women.

2. It’s Sunnah to marry a divorcee.

3. It’s Sunnah to marry a widow.

4. It’s Sunnah to help women in household chores i.e. cooking, cleaning, washing etc.

5. It’s Sunnah to put food with your hand in your wife's mouth as an expression of love. (graded as a form of charity)

6. It’s Sunnah to verbally express love, appreciation, and respect to your wife.

7. It’s Sunnah to forgive her mistakes.

8. It’s Sunnah to keep yourself looking pleasant for your wife.

9. It’s Sunnah to try to know the feelings of your wife and console her when she needs it.

10. It's Sunnah to be playful with your wife and spend quality time having fun together. (racing, story-telling, sharing happy occasion with her are some well-known examples)

11. It's Sunnah to recline and relax in your wife's lap.

12. It's Sunnah to call your wife with beautiful names.

13. It's Sunnah to not disclose her private matters to other family members or friends.

14. It's Sunnah to love and respect her parents.

May Allah SWT grant us ability to follow the Sunnah and grant us righteous spouse.

Ameen

When a Person Wants to Nikaah with You.

When a person wants to nikaah with you, and want to Avoid you from Haraam relationship
(Bf and Gf)
He wants to ask your Hand from your family,
He wants to make you near to Allah subhanahu Wa'Talla ❤☝.
He wants to remind you of Allah.
He Include you in every Dua that he make.

That's True Love & HALAL Love.

A Husband and Wife is like a hand and eye.

"Among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility with them and He put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are signs for those who reflect.”
𝐐𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐧 𝐀𝐫-𝐑𝐮𝐦 [𝟑𝟎:𝟐𝟏]

Marriage Is Not Easy

Marriage Is Not Easy But The Allah's Help It Can Be The Best Time Ever May Allah Bless All Couples And Those Who Are Seeking .

AMEEN❤️

Spoil Your Husband He Is Totally Yours ❤️

Dear Married Sister's In Islam

There is no happiness in this world than being Married.. Always say Alhamdulillah for such a good husband Allah SWT has blessed you with.. Appreciate your man's effort thanks to husband for Completing half your Deen, thanks for husband making you a wife, thanks for husband for making you the Queen of his empire..Tell your husband that you love him, tell your husband he is your Jannah, tell your husband he is your king he deserves your prayers so pray for him.. Husband need your love & care, he need your companionship... Husband need your warm hug, Don't forget to wake him up for prayers, Don't forget to cook his favorite dishes for him, Don't forget to dress him up as you used to when you were newly married, don't forget to satisfy him as ordained by the Sunnah of Noble Prophet Muhammad SAW, and don't forget that he is a human being who is bound to make mistakes, so forgive him unconditionally & wholehearted...Be mindful there is no perfect Marriage.

May Allah SWT bless all our marriage and make it easier for those searching for Soulmate 


Ameen❤️

The Divorced Woman 🧕🏻

"Even if you see that she has a child and you see that she is pious, ask her to marry her because she is going to be the cause of many baraka (blessings) in your life. "

💍 Khadija the wife of the Prophet ﷺ was also married before him twice when she was 40 years old and him 25.

✅ And she was indeed the cause of many baraka in her life.

👉🏼 So let's not belittle what doesn't have to be.

#Nikkah_In_Islam

How Problems Start in Marriage?

Based on my experience as a married man I can tell you with absolute certainty that this is what's happening in many marriages.

When you first met your wife, she was the most beautiful woman. You called her your Queen, your darling, your baby, your sweet heart. Soon, you got married, life was good. You loved each other so much. Then sudden she got pregnant, sudden her looks began to change, from a beauty queen to something else. Her face and legs swelled. She loses her shape and figures. After she put to bed, she started to breastfeed your child, her tummy protrudes. She looks like she is in her 60s or 70s.

Now, Instead of you to help her repair herself body, improve her beauty, get rid of that tummy and swelling, you simply abandon her. You dislike her looks. You some times hate to see her. Suddenly your darling become get out of my face, or I don’t want to see you. So problems starts. You start to creates problems that don’t exist. You make every thing a big dead. Then you start to see other women.

Brother look, a woman is like a Car. When you purchase a Car, after sometimes, you need to repair it, sometimes you service the engine, sometimes you change some parts with new parts. All in order to enjoy driving it and to live longer.

Likewise a woman. She cooked for you for years, dresses you for years, conceive for you for years, breastfeed your child until her beautiful breasts collapse. Now both you and your children have drained and exhausted her. So what should you do? You repair her. Take her to place where people are fixed after their delivery. Give her money to collect those post pregnancy therapies. Buy good cosmetics and body creams for her. Buy new jewelries, buy new cloths. Make her comfortable. Take her out time to time. That's how you fix her.

but Instead, as soon as she begin to get tired, most Muslim men would start to ask for Fatwa, they want to marry again.

Brother, the problem is not your wife, the problem is you. Even if you marry 100 women, they will also deteriorate because that's the nature of life. Everything deteriorates with time. I’m sure if many men were to take good care of their wives, their wives will last longer, their body and shape will remain intact.

Brothers and sisters, this is what I do to my wife. I make sure she is the happiest woman. I make sure she gets what she wants. I try to make sure she is not depressed. Because depression and sadness can destroy women. She deserves it, because I took her away from her parents. I took over that responsibility the very day I married her from them.

Please be just in your house. And Take care of them. They need it. May Allah SWT bless all our marriages. 

Ameen

#NikkahInIslam

𝑾𝒉𝒐 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒉𝒓𝒂𝒎?

~ 𝐌 𝐀 𝐇 𝐑 𝐀 𝐌 𝐒 ~


𝑾𝒉𝒐 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒉𝒓𝒂𝒎?
𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒊𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒂𝒎 𝒐𝒓 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒉𝒊𝒃𝒊𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐, 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒍𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒉𝒓𝒂𝒎.

You are permitted to have any type of communication with your mahrams.
Women can adorn herself without her hijab, ONLY infront of her mahrams.
There's no limitations for touching or hugging but modesty is a part of Imaan. Thus anything lustful is haram with anyone except your spouses.

Awrah for mahrams;
Everything between the chest and knee.

Categories.

1. Mahrams by blood ties.
2. Mahrams by breastfeeding.
3. Mahrams by marriage.
4. Temporary prohibition of Nikah.
5. Non mahrams or ajnabi.
6. Halal.

(In a woman's point of view)

1. Mahrams by blood ties.

• Father, father's father, mother's father and all forefathers.
• Brothers, siblings' sons and so on.
• Father's brother / paternal uncle.
• Mother's brother / maternal uncle.
• Sons, their sons and so on. (Grandsons)

It is no sin on them before their fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their brother's sons, or the sons of their sisters, or their own (believing) women, or their (female) slaves. And (O ladies) have Taqwa of Allah. Verily, Allah is Ever All-Witness over everything.)
( Al Qur'an 33:55)

2. Mahrams by breastfeeding. (Fosters)

• Foster / breast fed mother's husband (similar to own father) and their forefathers.
• Foster mother's sons, her children's sons and so on.
• Foster mother's brother.
• Foster father's brother.

3. Mahram by marriage.

The following will remain mahram permanently even though we part by divorce, death or annulment of Nikah contract.

• Husband's father, his father and forefathers.
• Mother's husband
• Mother's sons, her children's sons and so on.
• Husband's sons, his children's sons and so on.
• Daughter's husband, his sons, his children's sons and so on.

4. Temporary prohibition to marry.

The following categories of women are prohibited for men to marry temporarily based on marriages.

• Wife's sister and her aunt.

If a man parts with his wife by a divorce, death or annulment of Nikah contract, he is allowed to marry his wife's sister or aunt.

"Forbidden to you (for marriage) are; your mothers... and two sisters at the same time."
(An nisa 4:23)

Dear sisters, note that although your sister's husband can't marry you, he doesn't become your mahram. The same rulings of non mahrams apply here too. A woman should fear her brother in law, similar to death.

• Another man's wife.

A man cannot marry another man's wife as long as she hasn't parted from her husband by a divorce, death or annulment of Nikah contract.

There's no one that's temporarily unable to marry for a woman. She can marry any of her non mahrams, one at a time

5. Non mahrams - Ajnabi

Everyone else that is not mentioned in any of the above categories is a non mahram.
It includes the following too (in a woman's point of view)
• Cousin brothers (parents siblings' sons), their sons and so on
• All cousin's sons and so on.
• Aunt's husband, their brothers, sisters' husbands and forefathers.

We are totally prohibited to have ANY form of communication or contact with non mahrams unnecessarily, including touching or shaking hands. Women should completely cover herself, her adornment and abide to the hijab in the presence of non mahrams.
We can choose among this category, a suitable partner to marry and live halal.

Awrah for non mahrams;
- Complete body except that which is allowed to show for women. Complete hijab.
- The area between the naval and knee for men.

6. Halal.

Your spouse, which you legally completed the nikah contract with, is halal for you.
You are permitted to approach your spouse in any desired way. There's no limitations of awrah or communication.

"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze, and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over their Juyub and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their women, or their right hand possessions, or the Tabi`in among men who do not have desire, or children who are not aware of the nakedness of women. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.)"
(Al Qur'an 24:31)

"Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your foster mothers who suckled you, your foster milk suckling sisters, your wives' mothers, your stepdaughters under your guardianship, born of your wives unto whom you have gone in -- but there is no sin on you if you have not gone in unto them (to marry their daughters), -- the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins, and two sisters in wedlock at the same time, except for what has already passed; verily, Allah is Oft- Forgiving, Most Merciful.)"
(Al Qur'an 4:23)

May Allah protect us from Zinah and bless us happiness only in the halal pure way.

Written by – Minha Zarook ❤

What does it mean to be a husband?

Becoming a husband will change your life– for the better, of course! The very special relationship between spouses is a wonderful and humbling experience: your wife is the person that you have chosen to spend and share your life with, through all its ups and downs. When things go well, she is there to celebrate with you; when things go wrong, she gives comfort and support. She does not judge you on your failures and is all too often working behind the scenes to ensure that your life together runs smoothly.

The bond shared by a husband and wife is best summed up as follows:
“They are your garments and you are their garments.”
[Al-Baqarah 2:187]

So, what does it mean to be a husband? How should a husband behave and how should he treat his wife? The Quran shows us the standards expected from an ideal Muslim husband, the most important of which are summarised below.

In Islamic custom, men are regarded as “guardians” of the family. Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) has made them stronger and they are expected to expend of their means to provide for the family. This does not mean that they are superior to women; rather they are expected to act as protectors and providers.

“Men are protectors and maintainers of women.”
[An-Nisa 4:34]

GOOD CANDIDATE FOR MARRIAGE

Everyone seems like a good candidate for marriage. Like literally everyone who mildly takes care of themselves and shows some outward manifestation of their deen.

But listen.

Everyone has baggage. You can’t escape it. There aren’t perfect marriages. But they can be really close to perfect. More importantly, marriage should make you happy more than it makes you sad.

So, here are a few pieces of advice:

Take your time. He/she is coming. Do not settle.
Make sure to see if your personalities and goals are compatible. Islam’s process of marriage literally weeds out people you won’t gel with. It’s designed to make sure no one has to compromise on the basis of love. You both can have your lifestyles first and agree to it together and then fall in love. It’s much less sticky that way.

Make your intention for the sake of Allaah and keep it strictly halaal. No extra chatty-ness or flirting.

Feel a spark! Some excitement for the person you’re interested in is always a good sign.
And most importantly,

"DO NOT GET ATTACHED"

Do not get attached until your nikkah contract has been signed. Do not let your heart suffer if this person isn’t the one for you. Wait until it’s absolutely confirmed, and then let yourself fall in love with he/she, and go all out! :)

May Allaah give you all pious spouses and make things easy. Ameen.

WHY DON'T YOU MARRY? Part1/2

Why don't you want to marry?

Part 1/2

One of the greatest issues I see in today's society is the status of the youth. The youth of today are all spoonfed and they lack the ability to bear responsibility for the smallest things in life. It's true that we should learn from the advices from our elders but at the same time we should be wise enough to make our own decisions as caretakers of the future.
One of the problems we face due to this quality is 'delaying and denying marriage'.
However denial of marriage is comparatively less than delaying of marriage in the Muslim community.
Let's see some of the reasons that most of the youngsters complain to their delay or denial of marriage.
I've tried to rank those reasons based on the responses of the youngsters in my circle and my previous survey in the 'Nikah Marriage' page.
They are as below;

1. Economy
2. Responsibility
3. Education
4. Family
5. Freedom
6. Intimacy
7. Unrealistic expectations
8. Availability of Zinah
9. Influence of the ignorant and kafir.
10. Dowry

1. Economy.

Whenever the topic of marriage is spoken, the youngsters' first complain is their economical instability. 'We don't earn enough to feed a new person, we are hardly spending on ourselves, how can I accommodate a new change etc...?
My question is, when both two people were living in their own houses have either one of them starved to death? We know some people who are in relationships since a long time, during this period, both are living in their own houses, haven't they got enough money to spend on themselves separately?
It's true that it's the husband's duty to spend on his wife but if you are delaying marriage till you get stable, can't you marry and get some help from your parents until you get stable? It will save you from Zinah.
Do you think Allah will take 'unstable economy' as an excuse for the Zinah you are committing?
Moreover, what is the guarantee that you won't loose your job after you marry? Or loose all your savings on bankruptcy, theft or health issues? The more I think about it, the more scarier it gets.
I believe this is a lame reason to delay marriage. Because Allah has promised that He will increase your baraqah with nikah and children. What more do you want more than a promise from your creator?

Which of the favours of your lord would you deny?
(55:13)

Whoever complains their financial status for delaying marriage, don't trust in the powers of Allah isy view. Allah is the provider, even if you marry or not, you will NEVER starve to death. You just might not have enough money to fulfill your extravagant needs, but it's not impossible to maintain a beautiful family with minimal wages.
Because it's the almighty Allah, Ar-Razzak, the provider who is going to provide you each grain of rice and and as he has promised he will definitely increase your wealth after a halal Nikah. You just have to marry!
If you are wise when you spend, you can lead a content life. If your expenses were more than your income, you won't be happy or content even if you become the richest man on Earth.
Dear sisters, be mindful about your expenses. Women are commonly known for spending lavishly. Don't be the stereotypical materialistic woman. A wise woman and a good wife will think about all the torments her husband and father went through before she spends even a Rupee of what he earned.

2. Responsibility

The second most said reason is 'Responsibility'. This is becoming a crisis in today's youth society. The current youngsters are all spoonfed and thus lack the ability to bear responsibility and decision making. How long are you going to depend on your parents? When are you going to grow up and take responsibility for your lives? We can never be perfect in a task, without even trying to do it. When a child is born, it latches to its mother's breasts and drinks milk to fulfill its need, but it has been only swimming in its amniotic sack filled with fluid. Was it practicing how to suck? Did it wait for the right time to start drinking? It just started drinking when it started feeling hungry, didn't it? That's because Allah gave that child the knowledge to latch on to gain it's rizq, when it's right time.
Have you seen the birth of a baby goat? Have you noticed that it starts to walk few minutes after it's born? Allah gave that knowledge for it on the right time.
There are lots of such examples right under our noses but we deny to see.
Don't fear your future if you have done your best today. Allah has asked you to marry when you feel the need for it, then do it now, it is Allah who is going to take care of the rest, giving you the necessary knowledge about it.
Moreover, there are endless ways to gain knowledge about married life, go for pre-marriage counselling sessions, learn from the beautiful examples of the prophet Muhammad pbuh and his companions, read wholesome books etc...and take a brave step ahead.
Keep your trust in Allah and start the sunnah, what has to come will definitely come to you.

3. Education

Some of us delay marriage until we complete our education. The reason we usually say is that after marriage we get distracted and can't focus on studies due to new responsibilities, but haven't we seen so many people studying after marriage and even while having children? Have the ones who are in relationships failed in their exams? Have they lost focus?
No. They've succeeded in their education simultaneously with their affairs. Similarly I'm saying, do the same thing in the halal way.
Try to understand that a good spouse will always encourage eachother to perceive their dreams and support eachother to succeed. Just imagine having someone right beside you who would help you with your late night studies and revisions. It's going to be a beautiful journey to share with. You can build up your future together as a team.
Sometimes you might even fear that 'what if we didn't get a supportive wife?' well that can happen even if you marry after completing your studies. What if your spouse don't support your career then, are you going to not marry at all thinking about the consequences of future. So as I always say, don't think of "what if"s, anything can happen, the possibilities are endless, just make sure you do it right now in this moment.

to be continued...

- Minha Zarook